I was never sure if I wanted kids. Everyone told me I would be a good Father. I didn’t doubt that. But something was nagging away at me for a long time. Thought it would spoil the lifestyle I had created for myself. Time and energy to do what I wanted, when I wanted. Freedom to travel, play sport, go to the gym, pursue whatever I liked. I slept more than 8 hours a night. Was doing well in my career. Bliss. Life was good. I was selfish. But life was good.
I had friends who had kids in their twenties. I always thought poor them. Obviously I congratulated them enthusiastically. But still, poor them. Right? Then my wife and I decided we want kids. I talked myself round to the idea. But even then I was a bit hesitant. “But what about our lifestyle?” “My amazing lifestyle!”.
But something changed. We had kids. We had our daughter. Then it hit me square in the face as I first met her. “This is why you have kids.”
She became the centre of my universe. My ultimate why. Giving me a new sense of purpose. My life calling – preparing her as best as possible for life. So she doesn’t need me when she is older, but she wants me.
Did my lifestyle change? Of course. Did it change for the better? Absolutely. We still travel, I still pursue my hobbies, I am the fittest I ever have been (we do have slightly less money although I am now more motivated to be successful professionally as a provider).
I didn’t think my life could get better. It has. Infinitely.
Have kids. You won’t regret it.
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